Posted by Ellen Krafve - email
We took a look at a Consumer Reports poll to find out what could help couple's sex lives get back on track. Lacking intimacy can take a toll on relationships. Out of one-thousand adults surveyed, 81 percent say they put off sex this past year. Why? They were too tired and too sick.
"Fatigue is a big issue," said psycologist Wilson Renfroe.
He said that between jobs, children and all the daily acitivities. Intimacy takes a back seat.
"I often prescribe or suggest couples take a night a week, have a date night, find a babysitter, exchange time with another couple," suggested Renfroe. "Do something to get away by yourself. It's good to spend time with your family and your kids together but if the relationship between the man and the woman doesn't succeed, nothing else is going to succeed either."
And believe it or not, penciling it in could help. Nearly half of those who said they were sexually active, credit it to scheduling. Some, even on their PDA's and electronic calendars.
"That sounds very unromantic and non-spontaneous and just sounds like nothing you would see in a hollywood movie but actually it can work pretty well, especially when you have young children," explained Renfroe. "We sometimes forget that we schedule everything else in our lives."
As for planning Valentine's Day. Consumer Reports said half of Americans are spending less money this year. Tight budgets may help you think outside the box and plan creative activities together. How about singing your way into their heart?
"Let me call you sweetheart...," Renfroe sang.
Of course, that only works if you can hold a tune, but in this busy world we live in, the study shows that planning and healthier lifestyles can lead to healthier relationships.