Gift of Love: Adoption Myths

Each week we introduce you to East Texas children available for adoption.  Last we we talked about those hard to place foster children. One of the reasons they can be hard to place are some preconcived ideas that are simply not the case.  Here are more on the myths and facts of adoption.

We have introduced you to this sibling group of six before on Gift of Love. D'cameron (1), Drelon (2), Tre-Drian(4), Ny'Tliea (5), Xravia (7), Deshawn (8) are still looking for a home

"Our goal is to place all six of them together so that they can continue that sibling bond.  Yes, six kids is a lot of kids but they deserve to be together.  Since they are in foster care they only have each other and so that's why it's important to keep them together," Intensive Adoption Coordinator Ashley Gipson.

And this group of six is now seven, with another sibling being born since we filmed last.  And because they want them to be placed together, they are considered special needs.

That's one of the big myths about adoption.  Not all children in foster care have a physical, mental or emotion handicap.

"Special need in foster care means they are either a minority, a child over the age of six or a sibling group. Those are the kids when we speak about special needs kids because those are the kids we see staying in foster care longer and having a harder time," Gipson said.
While some children are dealing with physical or emotional concerns, just like other children, they need the nurturing and support that a permanent family can provide.  Foster children are in the "system" because their birth parents weren't protective and nurturing caretakers not because the children did anything wrong.

Here's another myth: adoptive parents must be a "cookie cutter american family".

"We don't discriminate, we verify single parents, single moms, single dads.  The other thing they feel is you have to have all this money and a huge house and that's not the case," Gipson

Prospective adoptive parents do not have to be rich, married, own a home, or be of a certain race, religion, sexual orientation or age to become an adoptive parent.  One-third of adoptions from foster care are by single parents.  Patience, a good sense of humor, a love of children, and the commitment to be a good parent are the most important characteristics.

Here's myth number 3.  Foster care children come with baggage.

"A lot of people are afraid of as they say baggage. but everyone has baggage but in foster care their baggage is on paper," Gipson said.

This is perhaps the biggest myth of all.  Foster children just like any children have enormous potential to thrive given love, patience, and a stable environment.  If someone opens their heart and their home to show the Gift of Love, the possibilities for these children are endless.