More women unhappy says study, but some disagree

By Holley Nees - bio | email

LUFKIN, TX (KTRE) - New research shows men are getting happier, while women are getting more sad, but some Lufkin women said it all depends on your outlook.

For one East Texas receptionist, happiness is a choice.

"I believe happiness is one of those things that we choose in life and I think that it doesn't matter if you're male or female," said Receptionist Betty McGee. "You choose whether you want to be happy."

One East Texas counselor said the multiple roles women play affect their happiness.

"A lot of women have careers, husband, children...[and] they often neglect themselves," said Licensed Professional Counselor Debra Burton.  "So, by the time kids leave home, they may be in a mess."

It also may have something to do with the way women evaluate themselves.

"The question you ask a man or a man asks another man is what do you do for a living or what kind of buck did you get this hunting season," said Burton.  "With women, we tend to put so much emphasis on relationships."

Some women said it's all about what you find happiness in.

"I think if you're basing your happiness on the things that you have and the things that you're acquiring, you're never really going to be happy," said Administrative Assistant Lisa Willmon.

For some, stress doesn't necessarily mean unhappiness.

"I think women tend to stress and worry maybe a little more than men do," said Secretary Darlene Fatheree.  "They take a lot of things inwardly and think about them, but I'm not sure that that's true that women are less happy."

However, Burton said appearance is also largely to blame for the lack of joy.

"There's so many things on the market to improve especially women's appearances," said Burton.  "But, there's only so much you can do."

So, for now, Fatheree and McGee will keep their heads up and try to prove the research wrong.

Counselors said another factor is that women may feel more, whereas men are able to detach themselves from situations.

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